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100 Most Common Characteristics of People With Poor Self-Esteem

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Poor self-esteem is the single most deadly personality trait that a person can have, because it shades all aspects of their lives in a negative way. Whether in their relationships with others, with themselves, in their careers, with their families, they exhibit a tendency to put themselves down and have all sorts of
negative self-talk that prevent them from ever fully realizing their full potential.
What would be considered some characteristics of poor self-esteem? Below is a list of the 100 most common characteristics of people with low self-esteem, notice any that applies to you?
Social & Relationships
1. Withdrawing from social activities
2. Fear of being in the limelight
3. Fear of speaking in public
4. Anxiety in social situations
5. Lack of social skills
6. Conform to social norms and not willing to "rock the boat"
7. Always the wallpaper
8. "Nice", boring, forgettable
9. Being the listener to all with problems
10. Unable to accept and give compliments easily
11. Not being fair to yourself - placing everyone else first
12. Need to please others at all costs
13. Keep on giving while finding it difficult to receive from others
14. Unduly self-conscious
15. Worrying about others' opinions of you
16. Worrying whether you have treated others badly in any way
17. Quiet and shy
18. Treating yourself badly but not other people
19. Need to impress everybody
20. Talking a lot to attract attention to yourself
21. Likes to complain
22. Always needing to prove yourself correct in arguments
23. Lack of trust in others
24. Feelings of sexual guilt
25. Fear of intimacy
26. Pushing away others even though you want to get close to them
27. Boasting behaviours
28. Excessive apologizing
29. Selfish, non-caring of others
30. Fighting with others over small things
31. Develop shallow relationships
32. Revenge seeking attitude
33. Lack kindness with people, can be harsh and unreasonable
34. Possessive
35. Making fun of others to make yourself feel better
36. Difficulty saying no to others
37. Have friends and parents with similar characteristics
38. Limited interests
39. Prefer to live in an imaginary world than the real world
40. Like to ask others how they find you
41. Need others to constantly affirm you
Career and Success
42. Reluctance to take on challenges
43. Fear of success
44. Fear of failure
45. Lack of confidence in own abilities
46. Expecting little out of yourself
47. Expecting little out of life
48. Not speaking up on your opinions
49. Not having the courage to stand up to own principles and values
50. Critical of self and others
51. Indecisive and wishy-washy
52. Job hopping
53. Giving up easily
54. "I can't" attitude
55. Easily affected by criticism or negative comments
56. Have difficulties asserting yourself
57. Self-sabotage behavior
58. Likes to stay within comfort zone
59. Lack of life purpose
60. Difficulty with authority figures
Physical
61. Eating disorders like bulimia and anorexia
62. Overly concerned with how you look
63. Neglecting physical appearance
64. Neglect of the physical body
65. Body odor (BO)
66. Alcohol addictions
67. Cigarettes addictions
68. Sexual addictions
69. Addictions to online games
70. Lack of energy
71. Compulsive or obsessive actions
72. Abused or currently the abuser of others
73. Self-hurting behaviours
Emotional
74. Depression and sadness spells
75. Accentuating the negative
76. Inner destructive self-talk
77. Suicidal tendencies
78. Phobias and insecurities
79. Fear of the future
80. A lack of fulfillment and joy
81. Serious and inability to see the humor in situations
82. Comparing yourself with others and always ending up short
83. Inability to accept your own shortcomings
84. Self-pity
85. Feel victimized
86. Jealous and envious
87. Perfectionistic
88. Feel dependent on others
89. Lack of self-respect and self-love
90. Feelings of lack and inadequacy
91. Not living in the present but dwelling on the past or future
92. Feelings of hopelessness
93. Lack of self-awareness
94. Feelings that you are small and unimportant
95. Feel lonely and isolated
96. Expect the worst of others
97. Feels life is unfair to you
98. Frustrated with the way that your life is going
99. Lack of inner peace and harmony
100. Feeling overwhelmed
Many people believe that poor self-esteem is something that you are born with and which you cannot change easily and quickly, but that is a myth that I would like to debunk. In the new millennium, new techniques have been discovered that can transform poor self-esteem in a quick, easy and effective manner that you would be amazed. The costs of poor self-esteem - failure in all aspects of life, need no longer be a fact and something that you must live with for the rest of your life. The first step is always the toughest, especially for people with poor self-esteem. Are you ready to take that first step to a life of confidence, fulfillment and newfound freedom?
Darius is a Confidence Coach and co-founder of http://www.SingaporeSelfEsteem.com, a company that helps people become the confident individuals that they are meant to be.


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